In the next article in the series on the “miracle” and the “mind,” we are likely to bring kindness and unkindness to the discussion about specialness. In A Course in Miracles (ACIM), kindness is associated with humility and learning and unkindness is with arrogance and specialness. The miracle-minded obviously choose humility, learning and kindness meaning they will eventually learn how to forgive all specialness which will be what maintains the separation from God. Belief in separation relates to everyone who is the One Son perceiving Himself as separate and different fragments. All unkindness stems from the anxiety in your brain when we repress our fear and guilt instead of forgiving our specialness desires. We blame and project it onto others who are really a part of us in reality.
You can find two books by Kenneth Wapnick on, “The Healing Power of Kindness.” Volume 1 is on, “Releasing Judgment” and Volume 2 on, “Forgiving Our Limitations.” In my opinion, these should really be required reading and continuing study for anybody who is a critical Course student. The next passage says it all:
Once you put aside the brilliant metaphysics of A Course in Miracles and its sophisticated psychological insights, the Course might be pared down to one simple rule: Be kind. If you are not kind, then not just are you currently not practicing the Course, there is no way you can even begin to know it. Regardless of how brilliant your understanding of its metaphysics may be, if you’re not being kind toward another individual, you are not doing what this Course is asking (The Healing Power of Kindness, Vol.1: Releasing Judgment by Kenneth Wapnick, p. 10, underline mine).
Regardless of this admonition, we insist on being unkind:
This inability to seriously practice A Course in Miracles’kind principles of forgiveness which they study, and sometimes even teach, has perhaps been probably the most serious failing among its students. This book’s sequel, “Few Choose to Listen,” discusses how students often conceal their thought system of specialness beneath the guise of spiritual counseling or friendship. The lack of simple kindness is, unfortunately, unmistakable to all or any except the Course student making the spiritual pronouncements (The Message Of A Course in Miracles: All Are Called, p. 306).
The non-dualistic meaning of kindness can not be understood here within the ability of dualism so long as specialness is continuously chosen as the ego hails from an unkind thought against God and Heaven. Our unwillingness to identify this in regards to the ego, and what all that thought system is capable to do, is something that hinders our progress with the Course. We must be prepared to consider the ego with the Holy Spirit – the real Teacher – and take that darkness to Him for forgiveness. Nothing could be hidden and that’s straight from the Course.
Kindness To Others Is Kindness To Self
In his books on kindness, Mr. Wapnick also discusses the foundation of a person’s unkind behavior is exactly the same fear (and repressed guilt) that is working in our personal mind and that is what unites us. We likewise have exactly the same right-mind and exactly the same ability to select between them. Choosing to be kind doesn’t make us different or better; rather it means we’re willing to rehearse the “kind principles” of the Course so that we can learn to know everything it’s teaching. It’s only a question of priority.
He continues to say that in learning just how to be kind towards others, we’re practicing being kind toward ourselves because, “you and your brother are one. They’re a part of you. You’re not different.” This goes directly to one’s heart of the ego’s thought system wherein the thought of difference is how a ego began – God and His Son were separate and different – and undoes it. Even the slightest hint of specialness could be the ego. What he says becomes clear if you actually study and practice the kind forgiveness of the Course!
A significant student of the Course wants to understand what this means. These students would prefer to be a happy learner with the only true teacher – the Holy Spirit – instead of a spiritually special teacher of the ego in virtually any form a class in miracles.They’re happy to master from Him just how to be free of the burdens associated with denying the Truth:
Forgiveness’kindness is obscure at first, because salvation isn’t understood, nor truly sought for (S-2.I.1). And here you’ll set down the burden of denying truth. Here is the burden that is terrible, and not the truth (T-21-VI.7).
Self versus “self” -or- Identity versus “identity”
In the Course, there is a difference involving the “Self” which will be our true Identity as Christ and the “self” identity with the ego. This can be a key point to know as the very first accepts the big event God gave us through being God-created; but the latter is self-created and completely influenced by the ego and its function of vengeance and maintaining separation. Everyone already believes they are the ego. We wouldn’t be here otherwise. To take into account the possibly of this being correct and needing correction restores hope to your brain as it points to just how out.
Whenever a spiritually special Course teacher (a type of unhealed healer) teaches specialness of the ego, they are being unkind towards others and thus themselves although they are highly unlikely to view it that way. They’re also not likely to think it is kind for anyone to have boundaries using them because their fear and guilt (and anxiety) are very great. However, honestly considering the entire world, we see that it’s filled with the fragmented Sonship who is anxiety-ridden from identifying with the ego self. Unkindness is rampant in the world as well as in the Course community. As Wapnick states though, we will not learn the Course until we decide to be kind.
Our behaviors will be the demonstration which mind we’ve chosen (God or the ego). The ego is really a vengeful and tyrannical thought system of unkindnesses whereas freedom from it’s tied directly to kindness:
Without anxiety your brain is wholly kind (T-6.III.3).
Freedom can not be learned by tyranny of any sort (T-8.IV.7).
It can be unkind to change the Course and spiritual specialness does that through competition with God and thus everyone. One small change effectually changes the entirety of the Course, a total thought system. If you think you recognize that, you don’t. Once you learn you do, you’ll automatically be kind for you realize the inherent value kindness plays in learning and understanding the Course. As Wapnick states, “It’s a question of priority.”